Rover asked:
I get the late train home every weekend (the commuter) which is always, quite literally, packed; we’re stuffed together like sardines with very little room to move even if standing. If you get a seat you’re literally hemmed in and have to step over people if you need the toilet at any point- you can’t even reach your luggage most of the time.
I get the late train home every weekend (the commuter) which is always, quite literally, packed; we’re stuffed together like sardines with very little room to move even if standing. If you get a seat you’re literally hemmed in and have to step over people if you need the toilet at any point- you can’t even reach your luggage most of the time.
I give my seat up to ladies if and when I can- but am I excused on a trip such as this, where it is so busy and cramped that to move about is likely to cause problems?
Thanks!
If you give your seat up to any woman, you are a TRUE GENT. I would say don’t bother – and I’m a woman. However, if the woman is pregnant, elderly or ill/injured, then it’s kind of you to give up your seat. If you give up seats to woman in general, I wish you would start travelling on my train!!!
personally this is a matter of etiquette. i would give up my seat to all females and elderly, as i hope 1 day when i am older the compliment would be returned!
why give up your seat for a ‘lady’? the only time i give up my seat is to an old person or a heavily pregnant woman. you’ve been on your feet working hard all day so why would you give up your seat just for a ‘lady’ ? if they’re able bodied they can stand like the rest of the commuters.
hey its up2 you really. i mean im 9 months pregnant i would always be very happy if someone gives up their seat for me although they never do they make me stand then i pass out and they all kick of cos im laid on the floor so i cant really win. i mean if a lady is elderly or pregnant or who looks very pale (cos thats when we tend to start to pass out) they would be very grateful if you did but there is no saying you have to depends on how much problems it would cause by you giving up your seat and if you have had a tiring day last thing you want to be doing is fighting to move lol good luck on your next journey
Men like you are close to extinction. My compliments to your parents for bringing up such a fine gentleman. If she is not elderly, pregnant, carrying a child or feeling ill, then yes it is okay to just stay put in your seat.
What a nice man!
I think that you are excused as you offer your seat on other occasions and in this instance it would cause more problems for others.
On a train ride like this, don’t worry about it unless there is an ill, injured, elderly, pregnant woman or a small child. You sound like a true gentalman.
Yes always offer a lady your seat
Oh you are a definite sweetheart in my book. God sees your sacrifices.
You sound like a real gent. But, you could get away with just offering your seat to pregnant women and pensioners etc.
Only if she’s pregnant, elderly or with difficulties.
It depends on whether you have paid your fare or not.
You are an endangered species, bless you! I would say in these circumstances it’s OK to stay put unless the lady in question is elderly, pregnant or has a walking stick or something. When I was pregnant I was usually ignored on the train and tube and it used to really upset me so I would have welcomed the offer of a seat very gratefully.
.Well done son, give your seat up to a lady when possible
you’re a true gent.
Only if she is an older lady or pregnant. When I was pregnant i used to get the tube to work I was about 5 months with quite a noticeable bump. the carriage was prodominantly male and no-one offered me a sit. So when I actually fainted and collapsed onto a row of lazy horrid men I feel my message to them was quite clear as to why you should let a pregnant lady sit down. HA HA HA
Wow, I didn’t know there were any people left in the world like you.
Most definitely, if you see a women who is pregnant, or is holding a child. Even if it is an elderly man you should. It has nothing to do with the gender. So too should a women give up her seat. It has to do with the person that is standing, and how difficult it is for him/her.
If a women who is young, then you do not have to feel obligated to give her your seat. Women fought for liberation. They want to feel equal to men. Which they truly are.
So again I say it depends on the age, and physical status of the person that is standing. KUDOS TO YOU.
You should give up your seat to people who need it more than you do. Giving it automatically to a woman or somebody older than you, is equally patronising to each.
All general rules about who would need it, are unreliable. For example, somebody pregnant enough to need more rest might also have more difficulty getting up from the seat.
The proper technique would be to offer your seat if you can see signs of distress or need. This allows the offeree to refuse, or to accept a nearer seat if this is offered in turn. It also allows for conditions, because crowding restricts the range of any offer.
It is also possible to stimulate offers from other passengers, by loudly (but politely) suggesting that they take your seat in order to leave a vacant one closer to the person in need.
No, you might be charming and sit besides me, Women are always saying they are equal that means they are equal to stand !
I would
especially if they looked weary hot uncomfortable or pregnant, elderly in pain……..
There really should be more guys like you! The fact that you’re even questioning whether it’s okay to not give up your seat in this particular situation shows that you are a genuine gentleman. But I do think it’s okay not to offer your seat to someone (unless you think they need it more than you) in this situation where, as you say, moving around would cause additional problems. Bloody hell, I wish other men could learn a thing or two from guys like you – you’re a nearly extinct species, you know.
You are a gentlemen Sir. To be totally honest I cannot understand why I should give my seat up to a lady/woman. Woman fought very hard for equal rights, and in many instances they are physically more able than I am to stand. (I am not sickly or disabled, but many woman/lafdies I see are superfit and are definitely not the weaker sex).
Personally, in instances where the person has a disability, or is weak or frangile; I will offer my seat; BUT I do not give up my seat simply because you are a woman or older than me.
no you shouldnt unless its a little old lady. women want equal rights so they shall have equal rights……lol
If u did then u would be really nice. but to be honest unless she was a old or older lady r a pregnant lady. then id stay sitting. first come first served. any way its the taught that counts ha
Personally I don’t think it’s necessary for you to ever give up your seat for a lady unless she is pregnant, old or handicapped. If you WANT to give your seat to a fit lady then go ahead, but you don’t have to and I wouldn’t blame you if you didn’t.